You have the same rights to your son as your wife, no more, no less. Virginia did away with the "tender years" doctrine many years ago in favor of the "best interest of the child" approach to determining child custody/visitation matters. The former gave preference to the mother, the latter gives no preference to either parent based on gender.
If she has already filed a petition in JDR court or a complaint for divorce/custody in circuit court, you should consult with a family law attorney immediately to address the filings. You only have a short time to respond to the court filings or you may be found in default, and the court may grant your wife all that she is requesting.
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