My ex girlfriend is pregnant and am certian that the child is mine. She wants nothing to do with me and has asked me to sign over my rights to the child. I have a family and am willing to comply with her wishes. Is it as easy as signing some papers? How does this work?
You cannot "sign over your parental rights." Parental rights and responsibilities go together; and parents have the responsibility to support their children. The actual level of involvement that you have as a parent is up to you, to some extent: You can try to be a part of your child's life, but no one will force you to do that. You will, however, be obligated to pay child support to your girlfriend (or to the state, instead, if she receives public benefits) unless you have care of the child something like 50% of the time or you live with her and the child.
The only way that a parent can voluntarily give up their rights and responsibilities is for another adult to voluntarily assume them, by adopting the child and becoming their legal parent. If your ex-girlfriend has a spouse or partner who wants to adopt your daughter, then you can assent to the adoption and terminate your parental status that way. Otherwise, it is not possible. (A parent's rights can also be terminated by the state if they present a risk of serious harm to the child, but this is not something that either parent can voluntarily initiate, and it does not eliminate the parent's obligation to pay support.)
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Is it as easy as signing some papers? Absolutely not. How does this work? It does not work this way at all. Short of her putting the child up for adoption or some other form of step parent adoption, you cannot do what you want to do. You have a serious problem and you should consult a lawyer about it.
This is a common misunderstanding that people have. You can't just sign over your rights. At this point, you actually don't have any rights. When the child is born, you have the option to do nothing and you will not be a legal parent, or you can sign a voluntary acknowledgement of paternity which will make you a legal parent. The only way to 'sign off on your rights" is through an adoption where someone else steps into the "dad" shoes. You should speak with an attorney about this further.
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