I pay child support to my sons grandmother. My son does not live with his grandmother he lives with his mom. This doesn't seem right to me. At the very least shouldn't my sons mother be responsible for half the child support since the money goes to the grandmother? I am out of work and have arrears. My license has been suspended and it is harder to get work with this hinderance. I want to terminate child support since the money is not going to the person who has my son. Also I want all of my arrears to be modified due to the fact that I am out of work and my sons mother should have been responsible for half of the support since there is a third party involved. is this possible?