My ex-husband and I got a divorce back in 2008 is when it was finalized. The divorce was finalized in Iowa. The divorce decree stated that we had joint custody of our two children and my ex-husband was suppose to get them insurance and pay 50% of the bills with the two children. I had to move to another state due to my new husbands job change. I let my ex-husband know that I was moving to another state and I also had talk to an attorney at the time. Right now my son lives with his dad and my daughter lives with me in Wisconsin. Apart of the agreement my ex-husband was suppose to file taxes on my daughter and I was suppose to file them on my son. My son has his permit in Iowa and my daughter has her license in Wisconsin.
It's hard to understand from your post, what is it now that you are trying to change? It's also difficult to understand whether the agreement you had to leave the state and split the children apart was an "informal agreement" between the two of you out of court, or was done formally by a stipulation and order and signed by the court in Iowa; informal agreements reached out of court are not binding legally; if that is the case, you are well advised to contact a family lawyer to have your post divorce agreement reduced to writing and approved by the court; it sounds like from your post, that there are also enforcement issues involved. However, you can't file a motion to enforce for contempt in any post judgment issues which were not properly approved in a written court order. If your ex won't agree to sign off on all of these issues now, you can still proceed by filing a motion with the court on your own to have these issues approved by the court; that is among other issues, the split of the children, you're living out of state, and each claiming one child as a tax dependency exemption.
You state you were divorced in 2008 and that your life has changed since then. Time passes; things change. You don't need to amend your divorce judgment every time something changes. You only need to return to court when there is a disagreement between you and your ex. And even then, it is always best to try to work out your differences prior to resorting to litigation.
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