Things have been relatively cordial in our divorce, no deception or controversy. She informed me that she is getting remarried and moving to Europe. My first reaction was no, my son doesn't want to go, ill fight for custody. That would be extremely costly and no guarantee to win. We talked and came to an agreement. She agreed to send my son 3 times a year to visit (cover the expense) as well as cover my expense twice a year to visit him. She thinks it would be foolish to spend the money to alter the decree and I should just trust that she will honor her word. I have no reason to not believe her, but I am worried that things change and I don't want to be left out. Should i spend the money and time to alter this now, or wait and see? Is it possible to fight it later if she doesn't honor her agreement? If we put something in writing and sign / notarize it, would that be sufficient?
Modifying the order by agreement is not that costly. It is an "ounce of prevention". As for "the pound of cure", with anything else she can change her mind and you might have to go where the child will have been for six nonths to fight the battle for access to the child. The terms sound good,but make it a court order.
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