If you are a month-to-month tenant, then you are free to terminate the tenancy, but you must do so with proper notice. Speak to a landlord-tenant attorney about your concerns. You do have a way out. If you feel threatened in any way, call the police.
Dear Staten Island Tenant:
You need a real attorney standing with you to protect your 21 year tenancy, instead of you packing up and running because your landlord is experiencing an episode of mental instability. The circumstances surrounding the current episode will abate, with proper medical treatment and so should not cost you your home.
If you have lived in the same house for 21 years without a lease, then the housing must otherwise suit your needs. Of course, you would have better protection with a lease, and a landlord must provide a written receipt to a tenant for rent paid in cash, and even when not, if the tenant demands a receipt.
There are no attorney fees available without a written lease that itself provides for attorney fees to be paid to the prevailing party in a housing court matter and only when so awarded to the prevailing party by a judge.
In New York City a month to month tenant does not have a statutory obligation to provide notice to the landlord. All the tenant need do is pay the last month rent and move (outside NYC either the landlord may terminate the month to month tenancy with a one month notice to the tenant, or the tenant may do so with a one month notice to the landlord; no statutory obligation exists in NYC)
Yes. You need a lawyer. No lawyer answering in AVVO is providing to you legal advice as that only may be provided in an attorney and client relation.
So. See an attorney.
The answer provided to you is in the nature of general information. The general proposition being that you should try to avoid a bad outcome if you can.
Both of my colleagues -- well respected in this area of law -- provide sound advice. Please contact an attorney in your area asap.
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