My husband lied for months about seeing and talking to another girl behind my back. We have 2 kids together and have been married for little over 2yrs but been together for 16 yrs. he left me and kids for this other girl, who (as I've been told) is a drug addict and has criminal record for drug charges. My husband has drug charges from many yrs back and possible assault charges. He says we can be civil and agree on divorce, custody, and child support but I don't think he will agree to my custody terms..girlfriend will not be allowed anywhere around my children, no matter what, no drinking alcohol while kids are in his care ( since he's an alcoholic and drives while drinking and/or drunk). He left us with nothing but a car (in his name because he took title down while I was working, that my dad bought for me) that has a title loan on it (which I didn't know about until after he did it) and it's going to get repoed on May 1 if he doesn't pay off the loan. I was going to make part of divorce agreement be that he had to sign over title to me, I've been main caregiver for since their birth, he worked and I stayed home cause he didn't want me working, he wanted me caring for kids.
I am always for hiring a professional. I do not do my own HVAC or plumbling as I am not licensed or skilled in those trades.
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The law in Missouri prefers joint legal and joint physical custody of children between the biological parents. Full custody (what the law calls sole custody) is a possibility, but not favored by the law and, therefore, not particularly easy to convince a Judge to award. Courts generally will not allow you to tell your children's father who he can associate with when the children are in his custody (even if some of the people he associates with have drug charges in their past). Though, again, the Court may be willing to entertain some restrictions in appropriate circumstances. Mediation will only work if both you and your husband are willing to discuss and agree on the issues involved in the divorce. If you cannot agree, then you will need to go to Court. Please immediately speak with an experienced family law attorney who regularly practices in the county where you reside to decide how, and when, to proceed.
The specific facts are different in each individual case, my response is provided for general, informational purposes only and should not be construed as specific advice directed to any individual person. Since I have not had the opportunity to review all the specific facts and any supporting or explanatory documents in this matter, this general opinion should not be relied upon in your specific case. This communication is not intended to create an attorney-client relationship with any specific person and should not be construed to create an attorney-client relationship by any individual.
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