You should hire a local attorney to represent you. If your spouse has counsel and you don't you will probably get hosed.
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You can bring evidence to court, but you can also perform surgery on yourself. It is a very dangerous option for a non-attorney, because you can't present evidence if you don't know the rules of evidence and civil procedure. Furthermore, if you haven't answered you are a party in default. In Missouri, as a defaulting party, they don't even have to inform you of the trial date. Get counsel if at all possible. If not, at least go to SelfRepresent.Mo.Gov to learn how to file a basic Answer and stay out of default.
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