I am sorry to hear your situation and pray for prompt resolution to your marital problems. As you stated, Texas does not recognize legal separation but nothing prevents you from living apart from your spouse.
I suggest counseling for both of you in the meantime.
As an active-duty military spouse, you are also entitled to free legal services from the military - not just your husband. While I know that other services, such as the Air Force may have different rules regarding the provision of legal services from JAG, the Army will provide free legal services to any service member and their families regardless of the branch of service.
I would advise you, seeing that you are in San Antonio, to call the Fort Sam Houston Legal Assistance Office and schedule an appointment with an Army legal assistance attorney. That attorney will be able to provide you with free, confidential legal advice tailored specifically to the facts of your situation.
Texas does not recognize legal separation. JAG may know of an option that allows him to travel if that is what he wants, or he could talk with his commanding officer about the coding issue.
This answer is intended for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered legal advice nor forming the attorney client relationship. This attorney is licensed in Texas.
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