Contact an attorney in your area and chat.
You have a jumble of issues and its not clear exactly what your situation is.
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Your posting is a conglomeration of different areas of the laws [employment law, discrimination, education, medical malpractice, etc.], potentially complex situations which can not be answered on a site such as this. Additionally, and as a generality, attorneys are not supposed to "solicit" a client, which arguably would be the case if one were to call you because of your posting, as compared to you calling them. Use the "find lawyer" tool bar on AVVO to seek out and then you contact an attorney who you feel suits your needs. Good luck.
Your inquiry is very complex and beyond the ability of this site to give you a full answer. Likewise, no attorney on this site will respond to you other than by writing an answer to your question. You need to retain an attorney, Use the find a lawyer feature of this site - there are many capable lawyers in Brooklyn who can help you.
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