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The above answer does not constitute an attorney client relationship and/ or retention of counsel. This answer is based upon the facts presented and may change if additional information is provided. The rules of the Bar for New York State may require me to advise that this could be construed as attorney advertisement.
There are many family law/matrimonial attorneys in NJ, some no doubt local to you. I know two in Livingston that are a good and do not churn the file to foment fighting and increase fees. One is James Patton, whose telephone number is 973-992-3500. The other is Kathi Valoric, whose telephone number is 422-9500.
After to speak with a matrimonial attorney, you should see me concerning a will and other estate planning documents. Failure to modify these important documents, including beneficiary designations, can result in your former spouse, or soon to be former spouse getting your assets. The courts limit some changes pending a divorce, but you should still see an estate planning attorney. I can be reached at 973-994-9080.
The foregoing is not intended to be legal advice upon which you may rely as I have not been retained for this purpose.
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