It certainly is understandable. The best "revenge" is being methodical, no matter what the obstacles, and obtaining your objectives, not being frustrated. Courts are about "rules" not "justice" and even if you have a setback on the "service of process" issue, just continue to final judgment.
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Good to make peace. As my colleague suggests, cases take persistence. Family law cases are stressful. During WWI, the British had a motto, "Keep Calm, and Carry On." There are days when I would rather try a murder case than a family law case. Recognize that the system is adversarial, and there will be real and created obstacles, and the occasional setback. Once you come to expect that your adversary will be "adversarial" you can try to create some distance from the daily fray. I explain my cases to my dog, who listens attentively. Makes us both feel better. Best of luck to you.
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Alas the Family Law system tries to ignore emotions. Also alas there is no free therapy on line--but there may be support groups.
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