If he does not have a legitimate reason for being in the area; especially if he lives 2 hours away, you may be able to argue that he is in violation. At the very least, it will likely proceed to a magistrate hearing where the issue can be discussed and clearly outlined. This may be able to set the grounds for any future harassment.
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Two issues here: the extension of the order and whether or not the order was violated. The facts you state make out a strong reason for re-extending the order when the time comes. Bring in the people he talked to as witnesses to support your position that he is not over you. As for whether or not his conduct violated the existing order, you need to look at the terms of the order itself. Specifically, I suspect that the order states that he must stay a specific distance away from you or your home, say 100 yards. If he is outside that 100 yard boundary, then there is no violation. Due process requires that the subject of the order be given fair notice of what he can and cannot do. If he was served a copy of the order, and that order stated he had to stay at least 100 yards away from you, and he has stayed 100 yards away, then he has not violated the order by direct contact.
The trickier issue is whether he has violated the order via contact of third parties. The easy case would be if he specifically asked these third parties to contact you on his behalf, and they did contact you, but that does not sound like what happened here. You are free to report this incident to the police, let them decide whether or not there is probable cause to charge him, and then let the courts sort it out.