Parenting and time-share plans are supposed to be very child/family specific. If you are undergoing that formal process, be sure to provide all information and documentation of special care, medical needs and service providers to the evaluator so all of the child's needs and concerns are addressed. At 13 her wishes need to be heard, but they are not terribly influential on a decision. It is impossible to give you any estimate on specific time-sharing without lots more information.
You know the child best. I sugget you write out a plan you see as optimal for gradually increasing visitation that considers the child's needs first while keeping in mind the father's distance and frequency of contact. If the child has a therapist or counselor get input from them regarding the plan.
Also, since he is not paying support regularly, be sure to ask that the father bear the burden of getting back and forth to see her. If you'd like to have a low cost phone consultation, I may be reached at (904) 419-8417. Good Luck!
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Is this an initial Petition Regarding Paternity? In other words, while there was a child support order entered many years ago through DOR, there was never a time-sharing or Parenting Plan entered through family court? Is he the one petitioning the Court now for a Parenting Plan? There are many issues the Court would take into consideration when fashioning a time-sharing schedule: the special needs of the child, the distance, the length of time he has not sought court relief, etc. I would be happy to consult with you to discuss what assistance I can offer you in this matter.
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In addition to my colleagues above answers with which I agree, the medical conditions of your child may warrant a suggestion of supervised visitation in the beginning to make sure that the child is not exposed to allergens or stress.
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