I hate to say this but the next step should really be for you to seek legal counsel especially where children are involved. You really need to make sure you are protected and the best interests of the children are met. Hope things work out and take good care.
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You need a real live lawyer and not a virtual one. Consult with a local attorney ASAP.
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If you custody and visitation worked out you have probably overcome the biggest hurdle. However, you still must seek bifurcation of status (the formal way of asking for a divorce) and divide up the community assets and debts. These issues can be taken care of all at once if the parties agree on everything. If not, then you can write up a stipulation regarding the items you do agree on and ask for a trial date on the issues you do not agree on. This is a very cursory overview and the facts of your case must be analyzed to determine what is in your best interest. For instance, if the other party is carrying your health insurance, you should know and be prepared for it to cease once bifurcation of status is taken. This is an example of just one of many issues that cannot be overlooked for making prudent decisions in the dissolution process. I also forgot to mention the issue of spousal support--it must also be addressed.
I would be happy to speak with you if you would like. I can be reached at 909-635-2023.
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