Something is missing in your story. Sit down with someone at the University of Washington Law Schools legal clinic to discuss the possibilities here.
In no way am I offering you legal advice, and in no way has my comment created an attorney-client relationship. You are not to rely upon my note above in any way, but insted need to sit down with counsel and share all relevant facts before receiving fully-informed legal advice. If you want to be completely sure of your rights, you must sit down with an experienced criminal defense attorney to be fully aware of your rights.
Despite a long "question" full of strongly-worded accusations, there is much missing. Courts do not order conclusions this drastic without making extensive findings of fact based on the evidence. For the precise assessment of your situation, retain local experienced family counsel to review the court's orders and explain them to you.
Best wishes for an outcome you can accept, and please remember to designate a best answer.
This answer is offered as a public service for general information only and may not be relied upon as legal advice.