Parental Alienation ??
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I concur with the recommendation of my distinguished colleague, attorney Scott J. Newman. There is, unfortunately nothing you can do about this, at this point. There is nothing here to substantiate parental alienation. This type of occurrence is happening far more often in divorce and custody cases then you would believe. If you thing this is going to persist, just follow the advice of my colleague Mr. Newman. Good luck.
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True alienation would not include the video being sent to you but there are things done with the child that the parent is not directly made aware of, which is why it is difficult to prove.
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I agree with the posters above. I am not sure if what your ex did rises to the level of parental alienation. However, it is inappropriate for him to share emails between the two of you that were obviously meant for each other's eyes only. If his behavior starts to truly affect the relationship that you have with your child, then you may be able to make a claim of alienation that will stand in court.
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Maybe he wasn't trying to make you look bad, but was trying to say, please stop fighting with me and be more pleasant in our interactions? And hoping your child would ask you to stop the fighting and be friends too. Each parent seeks to look good in the eyes of their child. Some parents don't understand appropriate boundaries and share adult matters with children. It's hard to tell exactly what is going on here.
Not a lot you can do here. Parents tend to say what they want to the child about the child's other parent. Even if a Judge Orders each parent not to make disparaging remarks about the other, et al, it is virtually impossible to enforce this. The only thing I can recommend is that you keep a diary of what is going on, keep the emails and any other proofs. If this continues on, you can file a Motion and ask that your ex have to take a parenting class, or go to see a counselor, perhaps. There is no guarantee that a Judge would give you any relief in this matter. I understand your frustration, but unfortunately this is a very common situation. Hopefully, your child will see what a good parent you are and have his or her own opinion of you without it being colored by the other parent. Good luck to you.
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