Yes, your tourist visa application appeared to be denied because you had "immigrant intent" because there is a pending green card application filed on your behalf. In order to get a tourist visa you would need to show plenty of evidence that you intend to depart the US before the 90 days of your visa is up.
It seems like you didn't accrue enough unlawful presence to trigger a three-year ban based on the dates you've given. I believe it would be fine for your US citizen spouse to apply for your green card for you now based on the information you've given, but since you don't seem to want a green card, you should contact an immigration attorney who can give you more guidance about what you should do next.
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