You are entitled to a speedy hearing on the OP against you. You can object to the continuance. You should also demand on your attorney that s/he explain the judge's conflicts. If you are i Joliet, delays of this sort are not customary for the judge sitting in that courtroom.
Usually, on an Order of Protection, if you think you've got a good case and it's not a slam dunk for the other side, you go in for a hearing on two days' notice -- you don't wait out the 21 day waiting period. THEN, when you're in on your hearing, even if the matter gets continued, you seek a visitation order under the O.P. Orders of Protection allow for visitation unless you represent a threat to the child(ren).
So, it sounds like things may have gone a little awry for you early on in this case. I suspect you represented yourself at the first few court dates and didn't know your options so you didn't ask for them.
As for this most-recent continuance threat, your attorney should get some notices off to the other attorney.
For the date to be continued, the other attorney should file a Motion to Continue the date, to which your attorney could respond and object. It sounds like no one is playing by the rules down there and it's just a free-for-all with people not showing up and not asking for relief and you getting frustrated.
Regarding the continuance request, specifically, I think it all depends on the reason the opposing counsel is seeking it. If it's because the mother has an appointment to get her nails done, that'll fail. If it's because the opposing counsel's mother just died and that is the day of the funeral, then a short (two or three days) continuance will probably be allowed.
Do you know why the other side seeks a continuance; or were you just told "she can't make it?"
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