I am sorry for your loss. Courts may grant grandparent visitation if they deem that visitation is in the child's best interest. To dirscuss your rights as grandparents and to discuss possible jurisdicitional issues, I recommend consulting with a local family law attorney. Many attorneys offer free consultations. Best of luck!
Beth A. Blackmore
Blackmore Law Office, LLC
It's conceivable, though not likely, that you could get a court to order the particular visitation you desire. However, I urge you to think better of the idea of suing your grandson's mother. Such a course of action is almost guaranteed to permanently alienate the mother, and could very well threaten the family's financial security -- very much to your grandson's detriment. The emotional cost of such litigation is also enormous. Your grandson would probably feel caught in the middle, and might feel responsible for his mother's distraction and distress. If you can afford to travel to Virginia, that accomodation to the mother's wishes would be a far wiser course.
NOTE: The only state in which I am actively licensed to practice law is Indiana. Even where questions arise in Indiana, no answer I provide on this blog should be taken as legal advice or as establishing an attorney-client relationship.