Since you are emotionally involved in this situation and not an attorney, you need to retain an attorney to represent you. Unless you can fully understand and realize the full significance of what this is all about, you may be making a big mistake. Goo luck.
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Go to www.njcourtsonline.com and look for forms to file a Complaint for a Divorce. Also look for instructions on how to serve the filed Complaint on your husband. If he is properly served and does not file an Answer within 35 days, you can get a default divorce, he does not need to appear in court.
I agree with Risa's response.
Answered 4 years ago. I don't recommend "divorce source", although they're not as bad as "The Divorce Center." I had to "fix" three cases from them where the person took a serious financial hit because of errors in the paperwork.
It actually frustrated me to the point where I decided to start my own website for people with "no issues" looking to dissolve a "starter marriage" (no kids, no property, no support) http://www.njdivorcekit.com . (This is really the only time any sort of "do it yourself" kit should be used, you are permanently giving up rights when you divorce; it needs to be done right and you need to know what your rights are).
Anyway, if an attorney files the divorce, she/he can have you complete an affidavit and, in almost all cases, you can avoid the physical court appearance (judges have discretion on requiring people to come in, but only about 10% of them require it at this point).
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If this truly is an uncontested divorce, i.e. there is no property or accounts to distribute, no claims for support or counsel fees and no custody issues, then you may proceed with an uncontested divorce whereby you file the complaint and the other party voluntarily defaults. Then the defaulting party does not need to appear in court. However, it is still important that you discuss the specifics of your case with an experienced matrimonial attorney. Often times what one believes will be a relatively simple and straightforward divorce with no contested issues can turn out to be far more complicated as the litigation goes on and unforeseen issues develop. It is therefore important that you speak to an experienced matrimonial attorney to learn what your rights are, how to file for a divorce and what to expect in court.
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