You should have counsel there to represent both you and your minor children. See Avvo.com under Find-A-Lawyer. You're looking for an Estate Planning or Probate Litigation attorney. Good Luck!
I concur with Attorney Potter.
The answer given does not imply that an attorney-client relationship has been established and your best course of action is to have legal representation in this matter.
This is a duplicate question. I think you have a real problem on your hands. You need a skilled attorney to review your matter, right away. There are a number of possible options, but I see no way of your handling this on your own. If you fail to show up in court, you will almost certainly lose. If you are content to roll the dice and let the judge decide, that is certainly one option. That is not what I would do, if it were me. I would try to find another way that you can get or maintain control of the funds, for your children's sake.
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