Recommend you contact the Santa Clara County Bar Association's Lawyer Referral Information Service (LRIS) at: http://www.sccba.com/displaycommon.cfm?an=1&subarticlenbr=188
You can get some free consultations and may be able to have someone provide you with low cost representation.
Best of luck to you!
Ask for attorney's fees from her. And se if DCSS will lower your support obligations.
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I agree with attorney Straus that you should try to get the support Order modified downwards. DCSS may be able to help you with that -- you should ask them.
There are a few agencies that might help you, like Bay Area Legal Aid PH: (408)-283-3700, but my understanding is that they have a long waiting list. You lose nothing by calling them and asking whether they can help you.
You could also go to 99 Notre Dame Avenue and get a brief assist from the Family Law Self Help Clinic. They might be able to help you enough for you to file a basic Request for Order seeking legal fees from your well monied & lawyered up spouse. Some forms you will need to look over and probably need to fill out to make a fees request include:
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Go to the court self-help center and tell them that you want to file for a modification of child support, and then do what they tell you to do. file as soon as you can. you can't modify anything in arrears, but you can get future requirements changed. Do this as soon as possible.
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