It is very confusing what you are asking?
You want someone to give you advice on how to play hard ball, with whom?
You are on probation? and want it amended?
Hire a lawyer.
This makes no sense. You , while on probation - a situation where the court acting mercifully- releases you into the community want to play hardball. This is not an intelligent approach to the situation. If this other persn is putting stuff on line and you can show that it is happening, the absolutely best thing you can do is hire counsel, an investigator knowledgeable of social media and report the problem to your probation officer.
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As a probationer you don't need play hardball with anyone. Stay off the radar or they will toss you back in jail.
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