It is probably not legal, but what damages have you suffered i.e., economic damages that you want a court to award you? You'd have to show damages as a result of what's she's done or there's nothing for the court to do. Keep your phone away from her and you may want to consult a divorce attorney. If you are bringing up someone shooting their wife everytime you argue, I would be afraid of you too.
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