Why haven't you hired an attorney to investigate what's going on?
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You need to have a Washington probate attorney look at this RIGHT AWAY, (assuming the probate is open in Washington). Probate matters do not get easier and less expensive with the passage of time. At least, if an estate is still open, the court already has jurisdiction and you will not need to pay, in order to reopen the file. You need to get ALL of the probate file so your attorney can review it.
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Make sure you have a copy of the file and I can set up an interview later this week. I'm up in Seattle, but we can arrange a meeting and would be happy go over everything. My number is below in the disclaimer.
Matthew Johnson phone# 206.747.0313 is licensed in the State of Washington and performs bankruptcy, short sale negotiations, and estate planning in Whatcom, Skagit, Snohomish, King and Pierce counties. The response does not constitute specific legal advice, which would require a full inquiry by the attorney into the complete background of the facts and circumstances surrounding this matter; rather, it is intended to be general legal information based on the limited information provided by the inquirer; it This response also does not constitute the establishment of an attorney-client relationship, which can only be established after a conflict of interest evaluation is completed, your case is accepted, and a fee agreement is signed. Johnson Legal Group, PLLC