You need to immediately consult with an experienced family law attorney. I would not rely on advice from your spouse. What form you need depends on what has been filed in the case. If a default has been entered, you may have the default vacated depending on the circumstances, but you need to act quickly. In addition, even in a default scenario, if custody is at issue, you may be still be heard in court.
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