Please seek out an attorney... Restraining Orders are difficult to fight and you will need to be very well prepared for the hearing. Are there children involved? It makes a pretty big difference as to what your approach should be. Dodging a hearing is normally not a good idea under any circumstanes. You need to defend yourself (or better yet get an attorney to help you defend yourself) if you can show that they are false allegations.
This advice does not create an attorney-client relationship.