You need to hire an attorney. Find a lawyer in your area using the AVVO search feature and schedule a consultation. You can force the father to submit to a DNA test by requesting that the court issue the appropriate order. However, your attorney will know best how to handle this.
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Definitely talk to an attorney in the area. You can compel him to take a paternity test.
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