Your mother-in-paw is correct. You should contact a lawyer. Not only is the issue of funeral bills (which you may not owe) but there is also the possibility that you may have inherited from your estranged husband.
I am a NY attorney and cannot advise you as to your state's laws, but I can provide certain general information that may be helpful. The fact that you and your late husband were together for such a short period of time is really not relevant from a legal standpoint. In most states, a surviving spouse will receive at least one third of the estate. The estate will be responsible for the decedent's debts.
You should consult promptly with a local attorney, who will be able to advise you as to what rights and what obligations you have.
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I would fully agree with Ms. Goldstein. You need to consult with a local attorney to see what rights and or obligations you may have in this situation.
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Good Luck to you!
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