I am very sorry for your loss. You have many questions, but many of those questions cannot be answered without additional facts. It is not clear how the ex-wife would have rights in your husband's house, for example. Was she also on the deed? Was she awarded some part of that property, in the divorce?
The relative time periods of the respective marriages are not going to make a difference for your purposes. The presence or absence of a Will or Trust very well could.
When you say you need an attorney that will help you win, it is not clear what you are hoping to achieve. The facts will dictate what happens. It does not appear that there are any arguments about what the facts are. It will depend on the title of the assets, the estate planning documents, if any and perhaps on the divorce judgment or property settlement from their divorce.
You clearly DO need an attorney to assist you with this. Ideally, you would want an attorney that is licensed in both Washington and Oregon, because it appears there may be an overlap in terms of the probate. If you do not know of an attorney, you can click the "find a lawyer" link below and type in probate litigation and the city/area.
Best wishes to you and I hope that you are able to resolve this with a minimum of expense and delay!
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Much depends on the ownership of the house in Oregon, and whose name is on the deed. if a Washington spouse has an ownership interest in Oregon real estate, then the Oregon real estate would be subject to Oregon law and would be probated in Oregon.
If a deceased spouse leaves property in Washington, typically you would initiate the probate in Washington for the Washington property, and initiate an ancillary probate in Oregon for the Oregon property.
I strongly suggest that you speak to a local attorney. He or she will ask a number of questions to determine what rights you may have in the Oregon (and other) property.
I wish you the best.
My colleagues are correct in their assessments of your situation. First, you will need a local WA probate attorney to initiate a petition for probate in WA. The, an ancillary probate will have to be filed in OR, with an OR attorney.
Your scenario is silent as to the existence of any testamentary documents (wills or trusts) and the form of title for the real property. These facts will have a great impact on how the probates will proceed. You mention that you need an attorney to help you win, there are no winners or losers, in this context. The law is generally clear, if there is a valid will (and it is not contested) its terms should be followed. If there is not a valid will, the laws of intestate succession will apply.
When you retain local counsel, they should be able to provide you with a solid base for what should transpire, based on the facts not provided here.
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