He doesn't want me to bring the kids to the front door when I drop them off or pick them up. He wants me to wait about 20 feet away (he originally demanded that I park somewhere, but the nearest spots are around the block). He doesn't seem to have settled his mind about whether I can bring them to the front door AFTER I call/text. I think it's silly, but otherwise find that it's easier to bring the kids and all of their stuff to his door - and then knock. I try to respect his wish regarding pick up and have waited (sometimes in the cold and rain) for him to slowly bring out our kids and all their bags etc. Does he have any legal standing (or will the court look badly on me) if I occasionally come to the front door? (Note: this is/was the primary family home for the last several years)
The court order in your matter controls. If it's unclear then you may want to request that the court modify it. Without knowing why your ex is making these demands it's hard to make any recommendations. There are many qualified family law attorneys practicing in your area, yours truly included. Please set up a consultation. Many attorneys will provide a free initial consult.
Unless the court order says otherwise you do not have to comply with his wishes. It might be easier however if you agree to call him when you are 20 minutes away from his house and he meets you at the front door or at the curb
Pick your battles. This seems like a very minor issue and the court will probably not be happy if you take their time for this kind of minutia.
For the sake of your kids try and keep things as calm as possible. Push back over things that are substantial, not having to wait 20 feet away.
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If you have reched the end of negotiationwith dad and you have truly "had enough" of his demands, you must seek the help of the court. The judge is there to heelp you in these situations and the legal systgem is at your disposal, use them. That is your strengh. You are well advised to retain a family law lawyer near your home.
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