You pose some very good questions, and they are very personal, if you move and you use the state you move into to collect your child support they will collect it for you, be careful becasue sometimes it takes a bit of time to get it right and you are dealing wtih the states. Please work with a local attny.
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You should pose these questions to a family law attorney in Washington (in the county where the mother and the children live). Child support is being collected in Oregon because your husband lives here, but it does not sound like there's any reason for an Oregon court to have jurisdiction over, custody, parenting time, or child support. Any modification in custody, parenting time, or support would have to take place in Washington's courts. Also, support would be calculated according to Washington's rules.
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