Husband has had half custody for years and joint custody before that. His daughter is now 13 and we have only seen her for a total of 10 hours this year. She seems to be alienated against all of us including extended family. We went to court last Spring because her Mom was in contempt and picked her up on our time and didn't bring her back. The judge didn't change our court order, but said she is 13 and can choose where she wants to live and said we failed to prove contempt even though we have a video of it & proof of her intent. I think it was because our lawyer wasn't prepared. Since then her grades and attendance have been horrible at school, the principal refuses to talk to her Mom anymore because she only makes excuses for bad behavior. Her Mom told her she can't talk to the school counselor and has pulled her out of 4 other counselors because she didn't like what they said. Her Mom has had her have multiple friends (mostly boys) over every day for a year and they spend the night every weekend. I feel like her Mom is purposely alienating her from my husband, me, our kids, and our family. She only ever shows up if we buy her things like Christmas and haven't seen her since.
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