I agree with Mr. Gould Saltman. File your case in California. California is a "no fault" state, meaning that it doesn't matter what the reason for the divorce is; there is no fault assigned to either party. You may have some of your attorney fees paid, but you will have to pay your attorney first and hope to get reimbursed from your husband through the court.
You should seek an in-depth consultation with a lawyer however as there is a lot going on in your case that cannot be addressed adequately on this forum.
Best of luck,
-Sanjay Paul, Esq.
This is not legal advice. No attorney client relationship exists between us.
1. HIs cheating has no effect on the outcome of the case in California, and has, I suspect, little effect in Arizona.
2. He probably won't be ordered to pay all of your attorney fees, but he may be ordered to pay most of them, if he makes more than you do.
3. If you and the children have lived in California for the last six months, then Arizona almost certainly does NOT have jurisdiction over child custody issues.
You need to speak to an experienced family law attorney in California.
I suggest you schedule consultations with a California family law attorney and with an Arizona family law attorney so that you can compare. You may be able to get free consultations on the phone. If not, just pay for an hour of each attorney's time. You want to get started on the right foot, especially since your kids are involved.
Here's a link to a blog article another attorney in my office wrote as a child custody primer. Hope this helps get you started:
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