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My husband cheated on me and and had a child. What rights do I have if I file for divorce?

Fresno, CA |

I have been getting Phone calls about this affair and i confronted him with it but he denied it until I got another call telling me he had a child then he came out with it.

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If you mean, do you get more money because he is a bad guy, no. You get half the community property and you get rid of him and you're single again. What did you have in mind?


California is a no-fault divorce state. Your rights are the same whether or not there was an affair.


California is a no-fault state. The courts do not enter the bed room. So your "rights" are the same as any one else entering divorce. That doesn't mean your anger and your hurt are any less legitimate. It just means they will not be addressed in divorce court. It's not very satisfying. It's also what makes divorces through the legal system so expensive, lengthy, and destructive.

Your "rights" depend on how long you were married and what was accumulated during marriage and by what means. But even the simplest of cases (in terms of assets and debts) can drag out for years because of the emotional struggles.

You should consider assessing your goals, even if emotionally based, and then ask yourself what achieving each of those goals does for you. Understanding the source of the goal is just as important, if not more so, than achieving it.

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