I am sorry to hear of your recent loss and it certainly doesn't help to have the PR acting like this. The way to be considered as the buyer of the house is to put in a higher offer. If the house is in probate, the PR likely has non intervention powers and can do whatever she wants. This is a good reason to have a consult with a local probate attorney, see if there is any point in a Tedra petition or even just a letter to the PR asking what the hurry is. Please be VERY careful of private real estate investors, these contracts always end in tears for the buyer.
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