Yikes! The collision sounds scary enough, and this biofather sounds totally irresponsible, but taking away his parental rights is probably not a reasonable outcome, Court practically never terminate parental rights except when requested by the state child welfare or in connection with a step-parent adoption . The thinking is that children deserve to have the support of two parents. If children need to be protected from dangerous parental stupidity, restrictions can be included in a custody order.
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Terminating parental rights is very difficult. It will probably be just as effective (for the safety of the children), less time/money consuming to seek supervised visitation only. I suggest you consult with a local attorney to fully review all your rights, and options. Good luck!
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For the time being, there's a better option. You can file for Dependent and Neglect against him to bar him from certain things, like having the kids in his car. You may want to call DCS and advise them and then see if they file the Dependent and Neglect action. If they do, let them handle it. If they don't the mother can file it on her own. She can try to handle it without a lawyer, but I recommend she hire someone to assist her with it. After the Dependent and Neglect action is successful AND the two of you get married, then you can talk about a Termination of Parental Rights coupled with an Adoption (which is the only way you can file the Termination).
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