See an attorney familiar with guardianship and probate related matters as soon as possible. You have identified a number of issues that could be troubling and that could result in power that might otherwise vest in your family vest in a public administrator. This might or might not be appropriate. Seek counsel.
This is a general answer only and you should seek the advice of counsel to address facts specific to your circumstances.
I agree with Attorney Hackard. This is a guardianship matter and you should be represented by counsel in order to defend yourself.
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You will need to engage an experienced attorney familiar with guardianships. This fact scenario is bound to be complex and fraught with problems for you.
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