If your father died survived by a spouse and his assets (such as the house) were in joint names, there is a good chance it was not necessary to probate the estate. You could contact the Orange County Surrogate's Court in Goshen and ask if an estate was ever opened there, but I am not at all sure the clerks will give out that information over the telephone. If they won't there is a court service down the street call Orange Paper Placers that could check for you for a small fee. Of course, if you need any work done in the Surrogate's court you will need to retain a lawyer there. As far as the GA real estate is concerned, if you are on the deed you are just as responsible for the taxes as she is. If you don't want the property to be sold for taxes, you will need to pay them and then hire a lawyer there to partition the property so you can get your money out of it or buy your stepmother out.
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