The last time we were in court, the judge stated that I should be sensitive to my ex's work schedule (because it's lots of nights) and that she and I should work out parenting time that works for both of us. She currently has EOW + one night during the week.
While that's fine, she makes it all about her and what is convenient to her. Complete disregard for my time. She pushes and manipulates to get more time than the court ordered. While I do not mind my son spending time with her, and I do allow her extra time sometimes when she asks, I DO mind that she is manipulating the situations and starting crazy accusatory arguments just to get her way.
What can I do to enforce fair parenting time if it is not consistent from week to week?
Enforcing parenting time agreements can be difficult if the stated reasons for them not working are persuasive. It sounds like your ex is offering some sympathetic arguments. The best response to that is to offer the court even more compelling arguments--keeping in mind that parental inconvenience, while not inconsequential, is low on the list of the court's priority considerations.
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You should hire an attorney to represent you in this matter. It sounds like you are probably beyond talking and working things out.
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While I do not have your order in front of me, I would say that the judge told you to be sensitive to her working schedule, not bend over backwards every time she tries to change parenting time. It is great she is spending extra parenting time with your son, which is encouraged by the Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines, if you two are not able to agree, the default is for you to follow the parenting time schedule for your child by appropriate age category. I would recommend you speak with an attorney as it sounds like you two are not likely to come to some sort of agreement on this and it will likely only get worse.
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