If you choose to marry someone who is disabled and has a child, your child support will not be lowered. You do not have any legal obligation to support someone else's child (even if a step child), and your choice to support someone who is disabled cannot be used to deprive your own child of proper support. I am unclear if you have a question about the name change. You were supposed to have received notice of that proceeding, and if you did't (check the court file to find out) you may be able to object now. Your ex will not be able to take your rights if you are properly exercising joint legal custody (assuming you have it) and all of your visitation so as to maintain a bond with your child.
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I agree with Ms. Whitbeck. Though statute allows for a reduction of child support when a parent has an obligation for another child, your child support will not be reduced merely because you've married someone with a child (disabled or not). That might change if you've adopted that child, but the presence of that adopted child is not the only factor the court will consider. As to the name change, you should have been notified, though these are often done through publication in a major newspaper. There are several requirements for name changes that, if your ex failed to follow, may allow you to "undo" the change. You should see Ms. Whitbeck so that she can advise you after she understands the entire picture.Ask a similar question
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