When I get my kid for weekends or weekdays, my ex will sometimes refuse to come get him from my place (even though our agreement says that one of us will pick him up/drop him off and the other should drop them off/pick them up), and sometimes will even refuse to meet us in the lobby of her building to pick up our kid.
For example, I will be waiting for her to pick him up on Sunday, and she'll call and say she can't come to get him, I ask why, she makes up a quick excuse of car troubles/work/"meeting with client"/"busy"/etc, and then demands that I get him back on time, or maybe she'll say that since I won't take him back that I have to take him to school the next day.
Usually I'm okay with dropping him off for her because I'd be heading her way anyway, but when I'm not planning on doing that, it just feels like she is strong-arming me.
It's gotten to the point that I'm nervous about picking him up for my visitation because I'm afraid she won't meet me for the drop-off.
Now I'm asking her beforehand what time she will meet me for the drop-off and she just ignores me.
What do I do?
Possible remedies are a motion for contempt, and modification of custody and child support, all of which require legal expertise if you hope to succeed. Consult with a family law lawyer before doing anything else.
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I agree with Mr. Hughes. The other thing you need to do is to abide by the terms of the order and do not deviate. Keep good records/evidence of these occurrences, and if it persists, go see a lawyer.
In addition to the good answers you already received, keep a log or record of these incidents. If this lands in court a long time in the future that will help with remembering details for hearings. A good lawyer letter now might avoid the time and expense of a contempt case.
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