You have to modify your court order to recognize the new facts. If you do not get a new Order you are violating the order every month you do not follow its terms in regards to visitation and support. It does not matter that the two of you have reached some oral agreement. Please call a local attorney today and get started on modifying your Order.
You should consult with an experienced family law attorney first of all. Since your current orders state that you will be paying full child support, in order for you to legally change that, you would need to file a petition/motion to modify child support in the court that the original child support order originated from.
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