You can see if he has a marriage license in the relevant county...or if there was a marriage announcement in a local newspaper.
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You can search the marriage licenses in the County Clerk's Office in the county where you suspect he was married. Informally, you can do searches on Facebook, etc. as many times people list their marital status online.
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Since this is a demand by your Church, this is not a legal matter. This is a matter for their rules and procedures. Normally I would refer you back to the church to ask what proof is sufficient for their needs.
I agree with my colleagues that you should be able to obtain information relevant to his marriage in the county in which he was remarried. The marriage license may normally be obtained in NYC through the office of Vital Records.
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