Me and my ex we're together for 8 years now that we're separated and went through Family Court and I have 50/50 joint custody she keeps threatening me with child support and take away my kids because she's saying I'm not supportive but I pay her whole rent and her car payment it comes out to $1400 on top of that I buy whatever my kids need school supplies school clothes snacks for school field trip money and I take my kids to the doctors dentist appointments that I schedule I do the Parent-Teacher conferences she does not have that she keeps asking for more money and I keep telling her I'm not going to give it to her I have put a restraining order against her but that still seems like it doesn't help the one thing I hate the most she uses my kids as Leverage and sends me pictures and video of them crying and when I do have them most of the time when it's time to give them back she doesn't want them that hurts me sometimes because it's hard to get a babysitter last minute and 80% of the time I don't go to work and there's only so much my boss can take.
This is a common threat that some women make as they view themselves as having special rights and control of the children over their father because they carried and bore the child from their bodies. If you have a Court order to share the children 50/50 it will take evidence that you are somehow seriously harming the children. (i.e. living with a child molester, etc.) If there is an order for child support you should be giving her the money per the order and not paying her expenses. If there is no order for child support perhaps it makes since to get an order, if any support is applicable it would seem that it would be less than the expenses you are now paying for her.
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If you have 50/50 custody, that means that there was a paternity action, and you were either found to be a father or your signed a voluntarily declaration of paternity. She cannot take the children away from you under the circumstances you described. She can file a request to determine child support. It might be better for all involved if you have a court order with which you comply, instead of just her coming up with things for you to pay.
Don't ever file something with the Court as grammatically challenged as your post. I suggest that you meet with the Family Facilitator in person over the Court's file. You'll thus get informed advice and won't have the communication barrier which you have from behind a phone/keyboard.
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