You have the right to contest a restraining order (also referred to as a 209A order). Typically the Court schedules a hearing for 10 days after the original issuance of the order. At that hearing you can explain to the court why the restraining order should not be continued. To contest the restraining order you or your attorney needs to show that there is no likelihood of abuse. Abuse is defined by the general laws as "(a) attempting to cause or causing physical harm; (b) placing another in fear of imminent serious physical harm; (c) causing another to engage involuntarily in sexual relations by force, threat or duress."
Until the retraining order is vacated DO NOT CONTACT the plaintiff by any means. A violation is a criminal offense and you can be arrested and held in lieu of bail.
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I am not sure that I actually heard a question in here, but I assume you are asking if what you describe are violations of the Restraining Order. If the telephone calls and messages came after you were served with notice of the Restraining Order, then they would certainly quallify as violations. It is not wise to post admissions that you did certain things here online either. You really should speak with a Criminal Defense Lawyer as soon as possible and DO NOT CONTACT your ex boyfriend and DO NOT POST ADMISSIONS here or anywhere else.