You need to get yourself to an EXPERIENCED family law attorney, who can get you an enforceable ORDER for spousal support (alimony), so that your ex can't simply "change the deal" whenever he wants. Once you've spoken to an experienced attorney, you'll have a MUCH better idea of what may or may not happen if you go back to court.
I am sorry that you are going through this. Most personal and verbal agreeements will have little legal affect the constant stream of payemnts will help support your argument but you do need a formal agreement. I suggest you retain a local CA attny and I wish you all the best, take care.
Legal disclaimer: The response given is not intended to create, nor does it create an ongoing duty to respond to questions. The response does not form an attorney-client relationship, nor is it intended to be anything other than the educated opinion of the author. It should not be relied upon as legal advice. The response given is based upon the limited facts provided by the person asking the question. To the extent additional or different facts exist, the response might possibly change. Attorney is licensed to practice law only in the State of Massachusetts. Responses are based solely on Massachusetts law unless stated otherwise.
My best advice would be to beat him to the punch and hire a lawyer to sue him for spousal support. Your lawyer can tell the court about the agreement, and show evidence that he's been paying it consistently up until he got married. Then ask the court to continue that amount. He will of course respond by asking the court to lower it - but it sounds like he's going to do that anyway. And you'll now have the upper hand by filing first. Make sure your lawyer understands that there are specific statutory factors that help a judge to determine a fair amount of spousal support - it has to do with the different capacities for earning, the length of the marriage, and the standard of living during the marriage. These things will have to be proven at a trial
Sign up to receive a 10-part series of useful information and legal advice about the divorce process.