Impossible to say what will happen. Too many variables. The decision of whether you should go to court is strictly yours. If you do not want to go, you can always contact the state's attorneys office and inform them of your position with respect to the prosecution of your daughter.
There are many possible ways this could end. Regardless, your daughter either needs therapy, treatment, or counseling of some type or she will end up committing an offense for which she cannot avoid.
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This is a heart-wrenching situation for all of you. Family counseling may help everyone sort out feelings and help you and your wife decide your next steps. Legally, the decisions of what will happen with the prosecution of your daughter lies with the state's attorney. As was wisely suggested above, you can speak with the state's attorney and let him/her know your position.
Brian S. Karpe, Esq. (860) 242-2221 Note: This response DOES NOT constitute legal advice and therefore no specific action should be taken in reliance thereon. No attorney-client relationship is created through this response. You should speak to an licensed attorney in your state who is competent to answer your question before taking any action with regard to this question.