If your daughter wants to, she can give written authorization to her attorney to discuss the case with you. You can then take a more active role. Call his office. Schedule appointments. Camp out on his doorstep if you feel the need to get the attention your daughter deserves. Let him know you are keeping notes. If there is still a communication problem your daughter can alert the court and she will be able to explain in detail why she is not prepared to go to trial or plead guilty or whatever the lawyer's plan is on the 14th (if in fact your daughter is not ready then).